Love is a passion, kindling heart, brain, and senses alike in natural and happy proportions; ardent but not sensual, tender but not sentimental, pure but not ascetic, moral but not puritanical, joyous but not frivolous, mirthful and witty but not cynical. His lovers look forward to marriage as a matter of course, and they neither anticipate its rights nor turn their affections elsewhere. They commonly love at first sight and once for all. Love-relations which do not contemplate marriage occur rarely. ~ From Shakespeare’s treatment of love & marriage and other essays by C. H. Herford. London, T. Fisher Unwin, Ltd.
How many of us would have experienced such love in our life? Each one of us, deep inside our hearts, yearn for such a love which is so pure and powerful that works like magic. I call it magic because only miracle changes the course of life but miracles happen when we pray. We don’t pray for getting such love. It is said love just happens. It is said love happens in a moment. It is said love happens when one seeks the least. Just like magic. Magic happens in a moment and when one is expecting the least. One gets into many relationships. Quite normal one would say. The reason for breakups often remain ‘incompatibility’, ‘lack of understanding’, ‘lack of trust’, ‘mis-communication’, and sometimes ‘lack of communication’. But how many of us actually admit to ourselves that ‘love did not happen’, ‘magic did not happen’. May be none of us. A friend of mine said ‘fall in love and you will know it’. Yet how many of us say ‘love happened like a magic’.
I feel the love that was there in Shakespeare’s writings was not just his imagination. It was what it meant to be. Magic that brings happiness in our life and changes our life. We have many of our problems career, relationships, family, friends, money, and materialistic desires. When I sat and inspected the reason, the root cause came out to be ’emotional conflict’. For instance, i am in a job which i don’t love yet i am at least good in the job i do and earn well. There is an emotional conflict within me whether to quit the job or find a new job. In another instance, I am in a relationship, yet I feel insecure emotionally. But when that Shakespearean love happens, magic happens. I start loving the job in which I am doing good and start exploring more options. I am emotionally secure and feel blessed.
That something about being in love is different. Happiness all over. The passion is about making the lover happy and realizing that lover’s happiness is related with our happiness. That if we are not happy for ourselves, how can we make our lover happy. That even when lover is in distress, the lover can be made to smile only if we are genuinely happy with ourselves and love to make the lover happy. The love sets both the lovers free for the lovers are not tied in chains with each other but allows each other to achieve their goals and realize their dreams. The love is passionate but not sexually overpowering. The love is pure for the love makes oneself to respect the lover and the lover’s decisions, no matter what. The love does need sacrifices but makes sure the lovers are strengthened enough to make the sacrifice and have no hard feelings. The love knows and understands the boundaries which are needed to safe keep the heart from getting hurt. Such a Shakespearean love is what every one of us yearns for. Lucky are those who get such a love in their lifetime.
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